Cheating on me?

If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, I don’t blame you. You don’t need evidence of anything to ask yourself this question. I’m serious. You don’t need to see a scandalous picture in order to bring the topic up. Cheating can happen to everyone and by anyone. Indeed, people have made some kind of regulations you should follow in order to prevent cheating–but how are you so sure that it’s flawless? A real lover expresses their feelings in words and actions, and so do the fake ones. As I’m writing this, even I can’t differentiate a cheater from someone who actually loves me.

Athough it is okay to test once in a while, it doesn’t mean you should abuse it. Think about it–you really love someone but they constantly doubt you. That wouldn’t feel very nice. However, even if you trust them to sincerely love you back and maybe they do, it doesn’t  mean they won’t change later. It’s happened to me, unfortunately, and my ex told me that “people change” right after he broke up with me. However, that’s another case. You can’t trust anyone, not even your closest family or friends, but we do it anyway. 

It’s because you can’t prove their love for you.

I remember my friends that took philosophy said it is impossible to prove the existence of anything but yourself. It made me realize that it’s true. The only things that are real are the feelings and thoughts of yourself. You believe something is there–even if it may not be there. When we are sad, we are thinking we are sad. What we see out the window, probably isn’t there. But why do we still think it exists? Because we think it exists. We came in this world alone, believe it or not, and it ends up being our world. The world actually belongs to us because the world is what we see it as (or what we want to see it as). In a way, it’s like saying that ghosts don’t exist unless you believe in them. The same applies here.

If by chance you think someone is seriously cheating on you, and I mean–with a whole affair going on, delve yourself into the facts. Don’t run away, because it’ll only hurt you more in the end. Refusing to know the details is the perfect way to hurt yourself. Recently, I basically found someone else and I left someone for him. If we all look at this big vague picture, it seems like I’m a player. I really hope I’m not viewed in that perspective because a lot happened for it to end up this way. It’d be a little redundant to rephrase what happened but my ex was so kind, he told me that if I could be happier wtih someone else, then I should go. Even today, I’m uncertain as to whether I made the right choice because these two are both wonderful individuals. I’ve been wondering if my new boyfriend has real feelings for me, for not much reason, and I haven’t held back from telling him I’m a bit suspicious. He understands because he did in fact change drastically these few years but he tells me he likes how he is now. We never know when they’ll change again though.

However, girls are not the only ones that can be cheated. Gold diggers? They exist too. Guys can be equally insecure in terms of their relationships. They usually don’t say anything about it, but they really should! There isn’t any way to find out if the girls are lying either because I’m pretty sure most girls are fantastic fakers. 

In summary, there is no answer to the topic above because it is really just a figment of your imagination. Just as a real lover will give you flowers, so will the cheater. Just as a real lover can be shy and seemingly honest, so can a cheater. There are couples that have been married for longer we have been born filing for divorce. It is entirely up to you and if you think you love them, you should also try to trust them. If it doesn’t work out in the end, oh well–there can only be next time.